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By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on emotional availability, masculine armor, and the fear beneath the silence There is a reason men can joke for twenty minutes straight and still avoid the one thing they actually feel. There is a reason a room full of guys can laugh, roast each other, tell wild stories, and still circle around pain without ever fully naming it. That is not because men do not have depth. It is not because men

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on money, masculinity, and the fear of not being enough When a Number Becomes a Measure of Worth A video has been circulating lately claiming that a man shouldn’t even think about dating unless he has one to three million dollars sitting in a savings account. Not invested. Not growing. Just parked there as proof that he’s “ready.” On the surface, it’s easy to dismiss something like that as soc

he Question That Shows Up Later in Life. There’s a moment that tends to arrive quietly, usually somewhere in midlife, where the question changes. It’s no longer Do I love this? That part is settled. You still love it. You still feel the pull toward it. The question becomes something heavier and harder to answer:

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Reflections on commitment, curiosity, and the fear of choosing one life over another The Question That Rarely Gets Spoken There’s a question a lot of men carry quietly, usually somewhere between late nights, half-jokes with friends, and moments of self-doubt they don’t know what to do with. It’s not a question most men feel proud to ask, and it’s certainly not one they tend to bring into honest conversation. The question is si

The Fear That Never Really Goes Away There’s a myth that once you’ve done something long enough, the fear disappears. That confidence eventually replaces doubt, and showing up starts to feel automatic. In my experience, that’s not how it works. The fear doesn’t vanish. It just changes shape. Early on, the fear is about whether you can do the thing at all.

Most people who grow up with ADHD don’t remember the first time they were called lazy, unmotivated, or a problem. They remember the feeling of it. Sitting in a chair that felt impossible to stay in. Watching other kids somehow manage what seemed effortless. Being corrected, redirected, or punished for things you didn’t fully understand you were doing wrong