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By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on authenticity, fear, and why depth still cuts through the noise. The Fear That Never Really Goes Away There’s a myth that once you’ve done something long enough, the fear disappears. That confidence eventually replaces doubt, and showing up starts to feel automatic. In my experience, that’s not how it works. The fear doesn’t vanish. It just changes shape. Early on, the fear is about whether

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on ADHD, shame, and what changes when the story finally shifts. The Label That Follows You Into Adulthood Most people who grow up with ADHD don’t remember the first time they were called lazy, unmotivated, or a problem. They remember the feeling  of it. Sitting in a chair that felt impossible to stay in. Watching other kids somehow manage what seemed effortless. Being corrected, redirected, or

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on presence, performance, and why slowing down can feel so hard. The Strange Space Between “It Works” and “It Feels Close” A lot of couples don’t come into therapy saying they have a sex problem. They come in saying things like, “We’re still having sex, so I don’t know why this feels off,” or “Nothing is technically wrong, but something feels missing.” That space, between function and connecti

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT – The Giant Therapist Real, Raw, Unfiltered Reflections on the quiet distance couples feel when intimacy turns into obligation. The Shift Nobody Talks About Out Loud Most couples don’t notice the exact moment sex stops feeling playful and starts feeling heavy. It doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in the in-between spaces. The late nights after the kids finally stop calling your name, the mornings when you’re both running late, the weeks packed w

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT – The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on the complicated relationship men have with love. The Sentence Men Struggle to Say Out Loud There’s a moment in almost every man’s life, sometimes early, sometimes not until midlife, when he realizes he doesn’t actually know how to feel loved. He knows how to chase it. He knows how to work for it. He knows how to joke about it, perform for it, or convince himself he doesn’t need it. But to g

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Wanting, Withholding, and the Quiet Places We Hide in Marriage There’s this strange, familiar ache in long-term relationships, the one that shows up right in the space where desire meets exhaustion. It doesn’t come with fireworks or dramatic endings. It usually creeps in quietly, in the unspoken moments at the end of the day. One partner rolls over with hope, the other rolls over with nothi