By Derek Colvin, LPC-S - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Conflict and Connection. Every couple has that one fight that seems to come out of nowhere, the one that starts with something small and ends with two people staring at each other, wondering how a conversation about chores turned into a conversation about everything else. It’s almost never about the dishes. Most of the time, those small arguments are just the smoke from something deeper burning

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Desire and Disconnection. There’s a certain kind of quiet that creeps into long-term relationships. It doesn’t happen all at once. Life gets full — work, kids, exhaustion, routine — and before you know it, the space that used to feel charged between you now just feels…still. It’s not that the love is gone. It’s that desire has gone quiet. And when desire goes quiet, couples often start figh

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Conflict and Repair. The Illusion of Quiet I used to think the quiet after a fight meant everything was fine. The yelling stopped, the air settled, and we could finally move on. But over time, I realized silence doesn’t always mean peace—it usually just means someone stopped trying. Avoiding conflict doesn’t save love; it slowly drains it. When we shut down to keep the peace, all we really do is