By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on comparison, quiet pressure, and the invisible scoreboard men live by There is a kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from work, parenting, or even conflict. It’s quieter than that. It builds slowly, almost without you noticing, and most of the time it shows up when you’re doing something that’s supposed to be mindless - scrolling your phone, flipping through videos, just trying to shut your brain off for a...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on emotional availability, masculine armor, and the fear beneath the silence There is a reason men can joke for twenty minutes straight and still avoid the one thing they actually feel. There is a reason a room full of guys can laugh, roast each other, tell wild stories, and still circle around pain without ever fully naming it. That is not because men do not have depth. It is not because men do not feel. It...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on money, masculinity, and the fear of not being enough When a Number Becomes a Measure of Worth A video has been circulating lately claiming that a man shouldn’t even think about dating unless he has one to three million dollars sitting in a savings account. Not invested. Not growing. Just parked there as proof that he’s “ready.” On the surface, it’s easy to dismiss something like that as social media...