By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT – The Giant Therapist Real, Raw, Unfiltered Reflections on the quiet distance couples feel when intimacy turns into obligation. The Shift Nobody Talks About Out Loud Most couples don’t notice the exact moment sex stops feeling playful and starts feeling heavy. It doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in the in-between spaces. The late nights after the kids finally stop calling your name, the mornings when you’re both running late, the weeks packed with work stress,...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT – The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on the complicated relationship men have with love. The Sentence Men Struggle to Say Out Loud There’s a moment in almost every man’s life, sometimes early, sometimes not until midlife, when he realizes he doesn’t actually know how to feel loved. He knows how to chase it. He knows how to work for it. He knows how to joke about it, perform for it, or convince himself he doesn’t need it. But to genuinely feel...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Wanting, Withholding, and the Quiet Places We Hide in Marriage There’s this strange, familiar ache in long-term relationships, the one that shows up right in the space where desire meets exhaustion. It doesn’t come with fireworks or dramatic endings. It usually creeps in quietly, in the unspoken moments at the end of the day. One partner rolls over with hope, the other rolls over with nothing left to give,...