By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on emotional availability, masculine armor, and the fear beneath the silence There is a reason men can joke for twenty minutes straight and still avoid the one thing they actually feel. There is a reason a room full of guys can laugh, roast each other, tell wild stories, and still circle around pain without ever fully naming it. That is not because men do not have depth. It is not because men do not feel. It...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on money, masculinity, and the fear of not being enough When a Number Becomes a Measure of Worth A video has been circulating lately claiming that a man shouldn’t even think about dating unless he has one to three million dollars sitting in a savings account. Not invested. Not growing. Just parked there as proof that he’s “ready.” On the surface, it’s easy to dismiss something like that as social media...

he Question That Shows Up Later in Life. There’s a moment that tends to arrive quietly, usually somewhere in midlife, where the question changes. It’s no longer Do I love this? That part is settled. You still love it. You still feel the pull toward it. The question becomes something heavier and harder to answer: