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By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on presence, performance, and why slowing down can feel so hard. The Strange Space Between “It Works” and “It Feels Close” A lot of couples don’t come into therapy saying they have a sex problem. They come in saying things like, “We’re still having sex, so I don’t know why this feels off,” or “Nothing is technically wrong, but something feels missing.” That space, between function and connecti

Most couples don’t notice the exact moment sex stops feeling playful and starts feeling heavy. It doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in the in-between spaces. The late nights after the kids finally stop calling your name, the mornings when you’re both running late, the weeks packed with work stress, meal prep, errands, and the sense that you’re always behind on something.

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT – The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on the complicated relationship men have with love. The Sentence Men Struggle to Say Out Loud There’s a moment in almost every man’s life, sometimes early, sometimes not until midlife, when he realizes he doesn’t actually know how to feel loved. He knows how to chase it. He knows how to work for it. He knows how to joke about it, perform for it, or convince himself he doesn’t need it. But to g

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Wanting, Withholding, and the Quiet Places We Hide in Marriage There’s this strange, familiar ache in long-term relationships, the one that shows up right in the space where desire meets exhaustion. It doesn’t come with fireworks or dramatic endings. It usually creeps in quietly, in the unspoken moments at the end of the day. One partner rolls over with hope, the other rolls over with nothi

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on trust, darkness, and the kind of therapy that changes lives. The Therapy Most People Never Experience There’s a difference between talking about your feelings and being known. Real therapy isn’t about worksheets and homework, it’s about stepping into the places you’ve avoided and staying there long enough to understand what they’re trying to say. Most people never get that far. They go a fe

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Masculinity, Fear, and the Lies Men Learn About Strength. The 2 A.M. Questions There’s a reason 2 a.m. is when the bravado slips. The house finally goes quiet, and the questions we avoid in daylight crawl out of the dark. I don’t think men are afraid of therapy so much as we’re afraid of the moment the mask comes off and someone sees what’s underneath: the hurt we never named, the anger sta