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By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on friendship, loneliness, and the emotional lives of men. The Kind of Loneliness No One Recognizes at First There’s a strange kind of loneliness that sneaks up on men as we get older. It’s not the loneliness of having no one around, most of us are surrounded all the time. We have partners, kids, coworkers, responsibilities stacked so high there’s barely room to breathe. But underneath all of

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on the ache and the beauty of letting our kids grow up. The Moment You Realize Something Has Shifted There’s a particular ache that settles in a parent’s chest long before anyone calls it grief. It doesn’t arrive with milestones or dramatic changes. It shows up quietly, almost innocently, in the empty spaces where certain moments used to live. Maybe it’s the afternoon you realize your house is

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Fatherhood and Fear. When Protection Means More Than Rules There’s a particular kind of fear that settles into a man when he has daughters. It’s not the loud, panicked kind—it’s quieter, heavier. It hums under the surface, the one that wakes you up at night when the house is still and you realize there’s an entire world out there that you can’t protect them from. Raising girls today—where the no

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Connection and Space. There’s this quiet ache that creeps in sometimes — the one that shows up even when you love your life, your marriage, your people. You look around at everything you helped build — the noise, the laughter, the schedules, the mess — and part of you still misses the stillness that used to exist before all of this. You love your person. But you also miss what it felt lik

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Most of us grew up believing emotions were something to control, not understand. We learned to stay busy instead of being still, to solve instead of feel. Somewhere along the way, we mistook calm for numbness and strength for silence. It’s no wonder that so many adults—especially men—reach a point in life where they can describe everything that’s happening around them but almost nothing that’s happening inside  of them. And when th

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Growth and Repair There’s something about parenting...