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By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Masculinity, Fear, and the Lies Men Learn About Strength. The 2 A.M. Questions There’s a reason 2 a.m. is when the bravado slips. The house finally goes quiet, and the questions we avoid in daylight crawl out of the dark. I don’t think men are afraid of therapy so much as we’re afraid of the moment the mask comes off and someone sees what’s underneath: the hurt we never named, the anger sta

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Conflict and Connection. Every couple has that one fight that seems to come out of nowhere, the one that starts with something small and ends with two people staring at each other, wondering how a conversation about chores turned into a conversation about everything else. It’s almost never about the dishes. Most of the time, those small arguments are just the smoke from something deeper burning

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Desire and Disconnection. There’s a certain kind of quiet that creeps into long-term relationships. It doesn’t happen all at once. Life gets full — work, kids, exhaustion, routine — and before you know it, the space that used to feel charged between you now just feels…still. It’s not that the love is gone. It’s that desire has gone quiet. And when desire goes quiet, couples often start figh

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Conflict and Repair. The Illusion of Quiet I used to think the quiet after a fight meant everything was fine. The yelling stopped, the air settled, and we could finally move on. But over time, I realized silence doesn’t always mean peace—it usually just means someone stopped trying. Avoiding conflict doesn’t save love; it slowly drains it. When we shut down to keep the peace, all we really do is

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S — The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered Reflections on Growth and Grief There’s a moment every man has when...

By Derek Colvin, LPC-S, CGT - The Giant Therapist Real. Raw. Unfiltered reflections on friendship, loneliness, and the emotional lives of men. The Kind of Loneliness No One Recognizes at First There’s a strange kind of loneliness that sneaks up on men as we get older. It’s not the loneliness of having no one around, most of us are surrounded all the time. We have partners, kids, coworkers, responsibilities stacked so high there’s barely room to breathe. But underneath all of